“Tell Them It’s OK to Talk About the [Depression]”!

Racing thoughts. Negative Assumptions. Overwhelmed. Fearful. Angry. Enraged. Hurt. Broken. Tired. Unfocused. Sad. Forgetful. Impulsive. Euphoric. Careless. Fearless. Desperate. Any or all of these are experienced at some time or another by an individual suffering from some form of Depression. If you know of anyone experiencing these symptoms on a regular basis, please reach out to them. Depression can and will impair one’s judgment, personal outlook, self-view, personal relationships, work life, home life, etc. Depression is a real illness; it is not a figment of one’s imagination. It is not boredom. It is not a bad day. It is not a sign of a lack of faith. And prayer alone, walking in the park or listening to music (or even writing) will not always erase the continued pain and other symptoms. In more cases than not, both regular talk therapy and prescribed medication that directly addresses the individual’s particular symptoms can and will help save a life.  Please help a friend or loved one seek the help that they need before it’s too late. It’s okay. It’s really okay to talk about Depression.

And it doesn’t hurt to listen either.  Learn more.*


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Euphoria Mine

and when the last wave
crashed upon the sand
I sung a dirge quietly

and buried the sunset
in my memory


I talked with God
as He watched me sleep

among a litter of
broken seashells

© ivy ford deshield. 2013. all rights reserved.


*About two-thirds of people with major depression never seek appropriate treatment.

The World Health Organization ranks depression as one of the world’s most disabling diseases. Yet with treatment, 70% of people with clinical depression can improve, often in a matter of weeks.

*Source: Web MD


Some mornings are hard.

Some mornings are hard. I think everyone has a time of day when they are not at their best. For me, it’s the morning hour. The anticipation of the full day ahead of me winds me up like an old monkey drummer toy. And often, the release doesn’t come until late afternoon when I feel that I’ve accomplished one or two major items on the day’s agenda. Being a worrier doesn’t help the situation either. I always feel that I’m going to forget something throughout the course of the day, so I literally go into dress rehearsal mode before the day has begun, envisioning my daily grind step by step to help me spot the pitfalls before I crash into them later in the day. It can be a rather slow process, so much so that my early morning moves into late morning and so on…the morning becomes a pitfall, itself. I’d love to avoid most mornings altogether and wake up to the midday hour and jump right into the climax. And I admit that I have done this on occasion, but this tactic doesn’t work so well with a 40-hour a week work schedule. So, what can you do?

Today is Sunday. Weekends are different for me. The little monkey rests his drum from the weekly speed and rhythm; there is no anticipation, rush or milling about. Yes, the weekend mornings can be slow, but not debilitating. I feel justified and comfortable in my weekend morning rest and dread anything that will break this peace. Even though I work some Saturday mornings, the days are easier for me somehow. My body is in no longer in distress mode, because I can live at my personal pace in these moments. Living with depression, I discovered that when I am able to work at my own speed or rhythm, I am able to maintain a more positive mood for a longer period, but as soon as a foreign or undesirable entity or event changes that pace or rhythm, I am thrown off-balance and unable to recover as quickly as expected. Set the pace, but give me some space.

As you have read, I like to dance to my own beat. I suppose that is not so peculiar, since there are many others who follow the same philosophy. Yet, each beat is different. I’m no longer interested in helping others understand me; I need to analyze myself and work on achieving a more balanced and steady pace in life. I need to be able to work more easily through the ups and downs and navigate mornings much better than I have in the past. Everyday the sun will rise and set. This will not change, so I must.

Living with and surviving depression begins with confession. Don’t hide from your idiosyncrasies or any oddities. They’re apart of your makeup; meet these issues; face yourself. Presently, I have returned to the spiritual for maximum guidance and a regular exercise regimen to renew me in the mornings, keep me energized throughout the day and help combat stress. I thank God for the former and my Dad for the latter. I pray that someone is in your corner, and if not, you can count me as the first. Blessings!   -Dorhora

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Can I be angry or sad without suffering from depression?

Can I be angry or sad without suffering from depression? The answer is yes, but if the sadness, anger or negative thoughts persist uncontrollably, then you may be suffering from clinical depression. If you are unsure, the best solution is to seek medical advice for a thorough physical evaluation. In the meantime, you may want to ask yourself if you identify with any of the following signs/symptoms of depression that I located on a non-profit resource site, Helpguide.org, launched by parents, Robert and Jeanne Segal, who lost their daughter, Morgan Leslie Segal, to suicide at the age of 29 after she suffered for several years from major depression.

Common Signs and Symptoms of Depression (Click for more details)

  • Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.
  • Loss of interest in daily activities.  
  • Appetite or weight changes.
  • Sleep changes.
  • Anger or irritability.
  • Loss of energy.
  • Self-loathing.
  • Reckless behavior.
  • Concentration problems.
  • Unexplained aches and pains.
  • Suicidal thoughts. [GET HELP IMMEDIATELY!]

Please take any suicidal thoughts or talk VERY seriously! They are a definite cry for help; in these types of situations, there is no such thing as crying, “Wolf!” Do not ignore the warning signs simply because an attempt at suicide may not be a first attempt or talk of death or suicide may be a recurring symptom in an individual. The Segals lost their daughter on her second suicide attempt! And if you are thinking about suicide, please talk with someone about your feelings immediately. If you don’t feel you can share your feelings with a family member or friend, please refer to the link above which will guide you to a hotline and/or website that will give you the proper attention and advice. With the right help, the negative and/or suicidal feelings will not last forever. There are rays of hope for even the most depressed and long-time sufferers if they work diligently to seek and receive the proper help and treatment.